This hits home for me as I typically attract those avoidant guys and then have intense anxiety between playing cool or inferring about what I need in the relationship. You're right. What I let happen will happen and I need to be clear about what I want and need. There is a lot of avoidant behavior out there and it doesn't help someone like me who is ready to commit and expects the same in return. This is a very candid piece and I appreciate you sharing it with us!