This is such an honest article. As a Black man I often had other men say to me as I was dating "I'm not into Black guys. It's just a preference." What it really is -- a basic rejection of a culture. While Black people in the US have a culture, not every family lives the same way. I was one of few who LOVED Asian men. It didn't mean I didn't like other "races" but I was gravitated by the culture. And even gay Asian men aren't "meek" or "effeminate" most of the time. But their culture places them in a calmer disposition or in a culture of being kind and friendly. Some were not so much. Essentially people aren't a monolith. Coming from a community of mostly Asian, Latino, and Black people, I can say that we all stuck together and embraced each other's culture. Those who come from outside of that don't have an understanding and write those people off based on stereotype (whereas some of those, such as food culture, are true). That's just not fair. Get to to know a person. I'm married now, so I can't speak to the dating culture anymore, but I loved this piece!