When you say that it's sometimes more about trusting oneself, it's true. I'm engaged now and every day I struggle with the realization that I don't trust myself. And as each day gets closer to "the day", I keep trying to think of a way that the day won't come. That somehow this person has been prentending. But I keep going back to understanding that I have fear and that I don't trust myself as much as I trust my partner. Everything is a risk these days, so I'm glad this article is here to remind that I have nothing to worry about. And it's certainly not wise to self-sabotage something I have that's so great. It's difficult to square the two things.